Hey lovelies! It’s been forever – I have been MIA for far too long and I’m sorry, but the good news is I’m back now. I’m grateful to all my avid readers and I welcome the new readers, I hope you enjoy reading this and show it to your friends.
As we all know, in Nigeria, we usually have different phases of trends – we’ve had the ‘slay queen’ phase, the ‘pepper dem gang’ phase, the ‘small girl big God’ phase, among others, and we are currently in the ‘na dem dey rush us’ phase. Even though the original is ‘fine boys like us, we we no dey too look for girls like that, na dem dey rush us, na dem dey rush us’, we have had different versions like; first born like us, we no dey too look for responsibilities like that, na dem dey rush us, AA like us, we no dey too look for malaria like that, na dem dey rush us, pastors’ children like us, we no dey too look for sin like that, na dem dey rush us and many more.
We can all agree that some of them are funny, others, not that hilarious. But the original is ‘fine boys like us, we we no dey too look for girls like that, na dem dey rush us’ anyway, I realized that I’m certainly not the only one that gets annoyed when certain kind of people use this phrase, so I decided to write about certain things that’ll qualify you to say ‘na dem dey rush us’ and not have people look at you like you are stupid or something.
One thing that makes anyone rush-able is ‘independence’; I’m sure you’ve heard it so many times it sounds like a broken record, but it’s the truth. No one wants to be with a liability. No man wants to be with a lady that doesn’t have something going on for herself – someone that is always asking but never giving. In the same vein, no lady wants to be with a guy that is dependent. The one person that did it was Taraji from Acrimony and we all know how that turned out, well, it was just a movie.
Aside independence, intellectual people are very attractive. A ‘good conversationalist’; that can maintain an intelligent talk. When I say intelligent talk, I don’t mean you have to always say smart things or what not, no, I mean always saying the right thing. When someone asks you ‘how was your day’ for example, don’t just say ‘it was fine’, no: tell the person about your day, to keep the conversation going (it depends on the kind of person though), but you get my point. Don’t be the person that just replies, be the person that actually chats! Also, ‘confidence’; Confidence comes with good carriage so having it is a two in one kinda deal. Having confidence doesn’t mean attracting attention to yourself to show confidence, it means owning whatever situation you find yourself in, and always in control. You have to be sure of yourself and what you can offer. A confident person is not just attractive, but sexy ‘af’.
Another thing that’ll qualify anyone into the ‘na dem dey rush us’ association is ‘good aura’; For those who don’t understand, it simply means have good vibe. There are certain people that carry this negative vibe with them, the type of people that always see the negative side of everything, they are like a dark cloud right above your head, they are called the pessimistic people and no one finds pessimistic people attractive, NO ONE!
Being realistic doesn’t make you a pessimist. A realistic person is someone that looks out for all scenarios; the worst case scenario and the best case scenario, they don’t sit down and imagine things, they get things done, but you see the pessimist, they always look out for the negative in everything. They are the bad energy that wizkid wants far away – heck they are the bad energy that everyone wants far away. At certain times everyone needs to have something to hold on to – hope, but pessimistic people always rein on your parade at such times.
This is supposed to be all, but because I love y’all so much, I’ll mention two other things that makes anyone attractive (you can call it a bonus or something), and that is be ‘approachable’; – smile, be easy to talk to and most importantly, do not be ‘judgemental’; Judgemental people are quick turn off’s. The second bonus is having a ‘good sense of humor’; – to mince words, be funny. That’s it, as easy as it can be.
This article is only necessary if you want to be ‘rushed’ by relevant and responsible people, but not by f*ck girls or boys.
Alright guys, this is all I have for you today. Thank you so much for reading, you guys are hands down the best ever. You are all amazing and I appreciate you guys. Enjoy the rest of your day, or night as the case may be. Until next time.
Till we publish again.
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